Before you’re a parent you absolutely demand that you’re life is never going to revolve around kids. Then you give birth to a tiny human and your world changes. Your opinions change. This week has been a complete testament to how much your life revolves around kids when you become a parent. Oliver is nearly 4 and a lot more ‘self sufficient’ than a tiny baby but life still totally revolves around him. Life really revolves around kids, especially when they’re poorly and we can either fight it, or accept it.
Last week Oliver was a bit (a lot) snotty and feeling rather grotty so he’s been at home instead of at preschool. Well and truly, life revolves around kids and I’ve accepted that. Everything has gone on hold and a lot of what I had planned and wanted to do hasn’t happened because Oliver has been here. He’s also been napping because his body is obviously trying to get better which has meant that he’s been up really late at night and struggled with getting to sleep at bed time. He also only wants Mummy, which has been tough. I’ve downed tools/laptop and just given him all of my attention and cuddles. He’s even napped on me. I haven’t been stuck under a sleepy baby for a long time. But I accepted and just let my life revolve around Oliver.
The To Do List
So this week my to do list has got longer and longer. We have a lot of things to plan for Oliver’s birthday party (in 2 weeks) and loads of things to do for our wedding. Then there’s the obvious day to day stuff. I still haven’t baked my Christmas cake. I really really need to bake my Christmas cake. And then start soaking the fruit for our wedding cake. It’s not even the short term things that I’m focusing on, it’s long term goals that seem to be getting closer closer.
All of the things I’ve needed to do but haven’t yet are
- Redesign my blog header – you may notice my blog favicon (that little square at the top on the browser tab) is different to the header.
- Write several blog posts – including a couple about my Raynaud’s
- Reply to lots of emails
- Read a book that I’ve been sent
- Tidy the loft room ready for my brother coming to stay
- Buy decorations and party bag stuff for Oliver’s party
- Book a visit to see the hall so that we can plan better
- Book a meeting with the wedding venue because we finally have our menus and it’s only FOUR MONTHS til we get hitched.
- Bake the Christmas cake
- Find bridesmaid dresses
- Find a time when all of my bridesmaids are available to go shopping/try on different styles and colours of dresses. This is proving to be really difficult because two of them have kids and jobs to juggle.
- Find a pair of shoes that I’m happy to wear on my wedding day (and some underwear!)
- Plan Christmas
- Buy Christmas presents
- Plan a trip to Lincoln to see family and friends before/around Christmas
- Plan a weekend trip up North to see friends in the new year
- Find another weekend to have a hen.
- Book the DJ
- Plan our AV set up.
- Chat to our photographers/videographer.
- Write a list of questions for our wedding planning meeting
- Design and send invitations
- Send Christmas cards
- Give notice for our wedding
- Book a planning meeting with the registrar
- Book hair and make up and plan my hair and eyebrow schedule (I realise that sounds totally pretentious!)
My brain is in overdrive
I feel like I’m getting to the point where I’m concentrating more on how much I have to do rather than getting any of it done. When your life revolves around kids it’s easy to get bogged down and panic at your never ending to do list. It’s easy to lose sleep and just concentrate on how behind you are, but I’m hoping this blog post helps me put my thoughts in order and concentrate on getting it done instead of just complaining about how much there is to do. I’m even planning on writing a to do list for R! Mainly because he keeps forgetting to get in touch with the DJ.
I’m also conscious of my weight at the moment. I did really well at losing a fair bit of weight last year and I can feel it creeping on at the moment. I’m really keen to make sure that doesn’t happen. I have my first seamstress appointment on 9th January and I’m well aware that I really can’t put weight on. My dress is a size 10 and fitted perfectly when I tried it on so I need to make sure it remains a perfect fit. I really want to avoid wearing shapewear underneath it. When I tried it on I didn’t need shapewear, so lets hope it stays that way. It’s the main reason I preferred that dress, it worked with my body shape without spanx. Hopefully you’ll start to see meal planning posts popping up on my blog with some delicious healthy meals on.
Does you life revolve around kids? Do you find that you get bogged down with jobs building up when you have a sick child? Or do you have some tips to help me cope with getting ‘stuff’ done when Oliver’s not feeling well? I’d love to hear any advice you have.