So, we are currently on our second baby name book…the first one, “Bring back Beatrice…” gave us one name, for a girl…Ayla. It’s really similar to Ayala, which is the name of an Israeli girl that is staying at the hotel to work at the Olympic Village. She’s a lovely girl, and I’ve always loved her name, so I guess it’s fairly normal for me to be drawn to a similar name. The second book is very old, it’s a baby names book that my work colleague (who I often refer to as my work mummy) had when her children were born. They are around my age, so the book is about as old as me! We have only had a quick flick through, but the only name we were drawn to is Una, another girl’s name. So we now have two names for a girl, and no names for a boy.
We want to have a shortlist of names that we like for both genders, as we are not naive enough to think we can have one for each and that it will instantly suit the baby, at the moment, it’s just a bump. A very wriggly, jumpy, active little bump. And a ‘tidy’ bump at that (apparently).
We have been trying to figure out what the sex might be via old wives tales, but the result is mixed.
Reasons it might be a boy, according to babycentre:
I’m carrying out front
I’m carrying low down
I didn’t have morning sickness in the first 3 months
I love salty foods – I usually hate salt, but a pack of Ready Salted crisps is heavenly at the mo, and have even started putting small amounts of salt on my food occasionally (HUGE step for me!)
My age at conception (25) plus the month of conception (3) = 28, an even number…that sounds crazier than the others!!
My hair has become more full bodied.
Reasons it might be a girl, according to babycentre:
The heart rate at the last appointment was over 140.
My left breast is bigger than my right (nothing has changed there)
I love sweet things (I’m starting to think I just love food that’s bad for me though…)
My skin is softer, although I still get eczema and have dry spells (dryness would indicate it’s a boy)
I’m moodier – I really do not have patience with stupid people, and get angry very easily these days, usually my tolerance of people is very high!!
I was definitely the less aggressive partner when the baby was conceived!
I lie on my right side…although I always have really…
Unfortunately I’ve not tried the pupil dilation test in the mirror, I’ve no idea which way my pillow faces. It faces the way the bed was in the flat we moved into. We don’t have a previous child’s first words to rely on, and the colour of my urine depends how much I’ve had to drink that day and how well hydrated I am. I’ve also not tried eating a clove of a garlic, and I don’t have a wedding ring to hang over my belly…
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I feel like we aren’t the most prepared ‘parents-to-be’ and when people ask me questions about things and I say ‘I don’t know’ they tell me it’s great that we aren’t overly prepared and haven’t researched the ins and outs of pregnancy, birth and parenting. Part of me thinks it might be a little stupid though. I’m really not the most maternal person in the world. The phrase ‘I don’t like babies’ has come out of my mouth many a time, even now, and I’m growing one. We haven’t bought any books, and I mainly rely on babycentre and friends/family when I’m baffled by something. I heard once that a stressful pregnancy can mean you have a stressed out baby that cries all the time, so I’ve been trying my best to be relaxed (those that know me would probably argue I’ve always been very good at relaxing), but that’s as far as it goes. I’ve never changed a nappy, and always said the first nappy I will ever change will by own baby’s, and I stand by that!! As someone told me the other day ‘women have been having babies for centuries, don’t over think things’. So I’m not. I’m the ‘Unexpectant Mother’, I have no idea what to expect, from pregnancy, from birth, and from being a parent. I figure all children are different, our lifestyles are all different, and we are all different. What a book tells me may well not relate to anything in my life, or my baby. I guess I will cross the bridges when I come to them, with the help of my darling OH, who knows much more about children than I do!!